One of my goals is to reach out and connect with men particularly in ethnic communities. I'd like to break the stereotypes and barriers that ethnic men don't talk about mental health. Needless to say, I'm proud to share that I am an Asian male openly talking about my struggles with depression, anger and anxiety.
Kindness begins with how we see ourselves. Much of this depends on how we were treated as children. Unfortunately, childhood abuse survivors often grow up as adults who a have hard time seeing themselves with kindness. We don't realize the subconscious voices telling us that we're unlovable, we don't deserve happiness, we're ugly or we're useless.
I can't believe it's already been 1 entire year since I started this blog and it's been a wonderful experience sharing my thoughts, reading others' and learning to be more tech-savvy! Most importantly however, this blog represents my growing understanding of mental health.
I was shocked and disheartened on Monday January 15th when I read about the sudden passing of Dolores O'Riordan, lead singer of the band The Cranberries and one of my all time favorite singers. I can't help but wonder how difficult it must have been for her to live with her challenges, especially along with the highs and lows of stardom. Like anyone living with mental health challenges, regardless of the support we have around us, it can still sometimes feel solitary and isolating.
One of the many things that motivates us as human beings is about making connections and doing things that matter to us. Whenever we do things that have value to us, we have purpose. We strive for a subconscious contribution to something greater than ourselves. We yearn to belong to something and to someone. We want to be valued.
With each passing significant experience in my life, I'm able to self-reflect with personal growth. There's been so many incredible positives to take away from this experience. Yet another chapter in my life, albeit short, has completed and new ones await.
What is it about my ego that makes me want to believe I am right rather than doing what is right? I confuse myself at times between being righteous with doing the right thing. It can be such a perplexing thought.
We are constantly learning new things whether or not we are consciously aware of it. It's all part of personal growth and development that makes each of us unique. Now in my forties, I've realized how much my perspective on life has changed over the years. Once feeling invincible, I now feel a sense of humility.
While dating can be an emotionally uplifting time in your life, it's important to me that self-love is present and accounted for.